You have one bottleneck limiting almost everything important in your life. You are not working on it. You are working around it. The self-improvement industry exists largely to make that avoidance feel like progress.
Remaining conspicuously undecided on contested questions looks like intellectual humility. It's usually strategic ambiguity: a way of preserving social optionality at the cost of honest engagement. The person who never commits never learns from being wrong.
Self-awareness is treated as an unambiguous good. But monitoring yourself in real time reliably degrades the very performance you're trying to improve. Introspection is a tool for review, not execution—and confusing the two is costing you.