We're told to trust our gut. The research says intuition works reliably in domains with rapid, accurate feedback — and fails systematically in exactly the high-stakes domains where people invoke it most confidently. You've been trusting your gut in the wrong places.
Discipline is treated as a character virtue — something the successful have and the struggling lack. The research says otherwise: willpower depletes, environment dominates, and the people who appear most self-controlled are usually the people who've designed their lives to require the least of it.
Stories are how humans understand the world. They're also the primary mechanism by which we get it wrong. The better you are at constructing narratives, the more confidently you'll be misled by them.